On pouncing and pouting
On pouncing and pouting

Abbie you should probably not leap on your friends like that I’m sure they don’t appreciate it!!!

Also, Jess, you should probably not pressure your boyfriend into spending time with you when he’s clearly not enjoying what you’re doing.

Honestly, everyone. There’s a lot of bad behaviour in this comic. I’m ashamed of you. #foottappingarmscrossed

News: Posted June 12th, 2012 by Alina

^ 37 Comments to “On pouncing and pouting”

  1. aunt_zelda Says:

    I honestly don’t understand why Jess and Mark are still together. I’ve been dubious about their relationship for … how long have I been reading this comic? (Has it been years already? Wow …)
    They just don’t seem to fit together in my eyes. It’s not that I think either one is a bad boyfriend or girlfriend to the other, they’re both lovely people, but they just don’t seem to have much in common, like each other’s friends, enjoy doing the same kinds of activities …
    I don’t know, maybe I’m missing something, but I feel like Jess was kind of Mark’s Beard, as he was a closeted geek early on. And now he’s working on being an out and proud geek, but he’s still got a Beard. But that makes it sound like I’m hating on Jess, which is not my intention.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 2:51 am
  2. Not sure if Sarah is facepalming at Jess for being pouty, or at Mark for being tactless.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 2:52 am
  3. Technomancer Says:

    I wouldn’t mind having a friend like Abby who pouncehugs me every time we meet ๐Ÿ™‚ hehe.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 2:54 am
  4. This is not quality time spent, Jess. All you’re doing is making him carry your stuff while you talk to your other friend. You could at least let him go hang out with HIS friends. |=(

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 2:56 am
  5. artsiebee Says:

    Honestly Jess let him have fun, he’s a boyfriend not a butler.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 3:24 am
  6. Michael Says:

    @Twentydragon, good answer, but still to whiny:
    “So you’d rather [insert any activity] than spend time shopping with me?”
    Real man answer: I’d rather got to the dentist!

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 3:35 am
  7. Dewboy Says:

    If you want to spend time just you and me getting dinner watching movie or actually spending time together no. Being your bag holder while you and your friend spend hours waisting my time in a clothing store I am not the least bit interested in HECK Yes.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 3:51 am
  8. Roger Says:

    i was in a relationship like that a fair number of years back. She never got the hint, so I got a tee shirt made up a fair number of years back, it read “Men Are Hunters, Not Gatherers – We Don’t Do Shopping Expeditions.”

    The relationship lasted about ten seconds after she saw it. Not the result I was expecting, but it worked out for the best – I’m in a MUCH better relationship now!

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 6:09 am
  9. vash_ts Says:

    “So youยดd rather go shopping with your friend thatn spend time playing in arcade with me?”

    also glomp hugs FTW

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 6:36 am
  10. Dominic Says:

    See mark, this is the point where I throw up my arms and scream “Oh GOD, I LOOOOOOOOOSE!”. Sometimes surrender is the best option.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 6:39 am
  11. mrcorvin Says:

    @aunt_zelda Honestly my girlfriend doesn’t really understand gaming, however, she knows it is something I enjoy. She would probably give a death stare at Gabby for the pounce hug, but other then that we know to balance the give and take of our relationship.

    For example, next month I’m going to have a weekend where I’m going to be playing 3 games. 2 day games and 1 night game. On the day where there is a day game and a night game there is going to be a couple of hour break between games, so my girlfriend and I (and not others) will go to get dinner together. Granted she is a geek, she just doesn’t understand the games.

    When she wants to watch her british panel shows all night she tells me. When I want to play a new video game I bought, I tell her. She was a Mass Effect 3 Widow and understood that I had to get the game out of my system.

    The issue is Jess is Oblivious to Mark’s needs, and Mark isn’t use to balancing a non-gamer girlfriend with his own hobbies. However I don’t think Mark SHOULD get a gamer girlfriend, but a girlfriend with some geek tendencies would work.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 7:43 am
  12. Eris Says:

    You shouldn’t pounce your friends?!?? I’ve been doing it wrong all along. *pout!*

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 9:38 am
  13. Dr. Deathproof Says:

    I’ve been shipping for Abby/Mark for a long time. Maybe he hits his head and goes all loopy like the Joker and that makes Abby attracted to him.

    One can dream, can’t one?

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 9:58 am
  14. Malady Says:

    I’m in a relationship where i have loads in common with my partner were really good friends and i’ll always be his player 2 if he needs one, and one of my friends is getting married this month to a nice guy who she has some things in common with, not heaps, not too little… and my other friend… she and her partner ahve so very very very little in common, but they are making it work, I mean they don’t even like the same TV shows, pretty much everything but sex and eating requires one of them to take a backseat… thier relationship will last because they worked out the give and take hitng very early, I know i would hate being in a relationship like that… but it really seems to work, as that is how everyone over the age of 45 i know who is still married has things.

    I don’t think that Jess is right for Mark, as she seems to be unable to cope too well with his geeky past-times, possibly even to see them as childish and insignificant, which is terrible for mark as he is doing something he enjoys with people he enjoys the company of, all the successful relationships i know of where the partners are differing in interests work becuase they accept eachothers differeing needs, jess in her current form does not seem to accept Mark wholely.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 10:24 am
  15. William Says:

    Jess’ face in the last panel is very well done. Just the right amount of eye glare and head tilt.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 10:36 am
  16. Alfvaen Says:

    Well, what are you gonna do? They’re people with their own minds, it’s not like you can just control their behaviour with your whims…

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 10:53 am
  17. OldGeekGal Says:

    I think Jess has an inner geek – she loves cheesy horror films and seemed to find it fun to get involved in the “spooky mystery” at the movie theater. Mark should understand that and encourage it.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 11:47 am
  18. D Says:

    I was Mark for many years, now my woman is a full on gamer in her own right. Mark and Sarah need to get naked and horizontal.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 11:54 am
  19. Othniel Says:

    Spend time with you… yes. Shopping… no. And video games aren’t dumb, they are something I enjoy. I also like spending time with my friends and being talked to rather than feeling obligated to carry your bags for you. I’ll even help you take these out to the car before I go. But honey we have been here 5 hours and the only fun thing I got to do was Gothtopic which you didn’t enjoy. You’ve barely even talked to me, which has made me feel more like a pack mule than your boyfriend. I’d be happy to spend more time with youbut can we do something other than shop?

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 12:22 pm
  20. absolut3zero Says:

    Mark and Jess’s relationship is pretty much the story of my entire life. Just once I wish I could meet someone who understands why I choose to spend my play money on Serenity models and Neil Gaiman figurines, not Tommy Hilfiger and Calvin Klein. I LIKE having my fee time revolve around Firefly watching parties and Rolemaster weekends. And YES, I really am going to take the only vacation time I get this year and spend it working volunteer security for Trek Expo. Being surrounded by people who understand why I do these things IS a vacation for me. If you had to hide any aspect of who you are to avoid strife in the relationship, that is not “working things out”.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 3:41 pm
  21. Carda Says:

    Mark’s relationship with Jess feels a LOT like that Five Iron Frenzy song “Wizard Needs Food Badly”.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 4:22 pm
  22. KaelHyun Says:

    @Dr. Deathproof: Totally agree I’ll be honest if Mark and Jess break up I want Abby to end up with him as I honestly don’t like Sarah IDK why she just a bit stalker-ish the way she’s trying to get close to Jess (Yes I know they went to the same High school but still) and how she set it up so Mark’s Vampire character fell in lust with her character.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 5:15 pm
  23. Eboreg Says:

    Am I only one who remembers that Mark isn’t the first geek that Jess dated. I think that Jess is attracted to traits that tend to come along with hardcore geekiness.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 6:15 pm
  24. Chris Says:

    How much time has actually passed in world for them? It can’t be more than six months.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 6:41 pm
  25. Confused fellow Says:

    They’re… they’re fictional characters, guys.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 7:41 pm
  26. FSilvermane Says:

    Marks answer should be “If by Shopping you mean carrying you and your friend’s bags,…. being a walking ATM,… a living Ken doll,… and listening to your friend put down a place that my friends shop [Gothtopic] for hours on end,…then yes I would very much like to go play videogames at the arcade with my friends,…but if by Shopping you mean that you and I, us only, will go together to places that we can both at least kinda agree on to get my work clothes and some stuff for you then by all means I can skip the arcade with these guys because I will see them later tonight. So which is it hun?” I may be a nice guy but after awhile even a doormat gets ruffled and trips you,…..

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 8:05 pm
  27. Dr. Deathproof Says:

    @KaelHyun I like the way you think and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter and/or periodical.

    Posted June 12th, 2012 at 10:32 pm
  28. artsiebee Says:

    @Confused fellow: Shh, you’ll spoil the fun.
    ((We know, but if we don’t treat them as people we have nothing to discuss.))

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 2:22 am
  29. LoneHowler Says:

    I’m a jeans and t-shirt girl, but mom drags me out shopping once in a while. She has the browser shopping style, which is look at every wrack of clothing. Whereas I’m a hunter, I can spot what I like and don’t like quickly, do they have it in my size? Nope, moving on.

    I learned long ago that she could spend hours in one tiny little shop. So we made a deal; she gets to shop in her stores, while I go have fun in my stores nearby. I could easily hit two or three of my stores while she is in one of hers. A book or something else to keep me entertained is handy if she takes too long in one store before we move off to another section.
    While she is in her store she is often paying too much attention to shopping to even miss my absence and we get the in between stores time together. There is some stores we love browsing together and out arrangement works wonders.

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 4:08 am
  30. @artsiebee: No, Confused Fellow is right. These characters don’t actually exist, therefore we aren’t supposed to care about them. That would be just plain silly!

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 10:19 am
  31. Jmack10 Says:

    To be honest, I wouldn’t mind getting pounced on. Beats being hit by a fish, or having everything stole out you bag.

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 12:13 pm
  32. FSilvermane Says:

    Then I am silly. I look at these characters and realize I know these people in RL [and yes we have had an Abby in our group and yes I miss her since she moved up north] or atleast see aspects of them in my friends,…that is what makes it fun to read the comic. Admittedly my friends and I go for a slight different aspect of Geekdom [we are historical entertainers and enactors so dress up all medieval or Piratey so yes Katie would fit in in my group quite well] but we are still Geeks and are damn proud of it.

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 1:49 pm
  33. kzkskippy Says:

    This may come as no surprise, but I don’t actually like Jess. In fact, I kinda suspect she is the last handicap in Mark’s ascent to geekness. I’d go so far as to say that the way he has to retain a little bit of his normalcy to relate to her is probably keeping him from weregeeking out like the others can.

    Posted June 13th, 2012 at 10:23 pm
  34. Eva Says:

    I feel really sad that so many people think poorly of Jess. As at least one person pointed out, she has things she loves like scary movies that could blossom into geekdom, just not the kind Mark likes. From the time that Sarah spent with her, she’s clearly a good deal smarter than her shallow friends, she just has not perspective. So far the only introductions she’s had to geekdom have amounted to throwing her into a diving well with a leg iron on rather than coaxing her to enjoy some of the lighter aspects of the hobbies that Mark and his friends enjoy. (You don’t introduce someone who thinks of board games as “Monopoly” to hardcore gamer games… you build up from some of the lighter board games!)

    I think Jess has the potential to be more sympathetic and empathetic, she’s just a little to emired in some of the gender role stereotypes that are prevalent in our culture. She’s demonstrated that she understands the idea of having different interests and respecting Mark’s even when she doesn’t understand them, so I think there’s hope for them. He does need to learn to gently stand up for himself though.

    (I say all this as a woman who’s a second generation gamer and for a while faced the idea that she might have to date non-gamers to find a stable relationship. Sometimes the right person isn’t someone you’re going to spend all your time with and some people don’t actually want the kind of relationship where you do 100% of your leisure activities together. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Posted June 14th, 2012 at 12:28 pm
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  37. md05au Says:

    love the facial expressions in the last panel

    Posted June 16th, 2012 at 9:19 am