Walking away
Walking away

… Sometimes, it’s the smartest thing you can do.

There’s still some great discussions going on in the comments! Glad to hear you guys are so into this storyline – I’ve been dreading writing it for so long!

News: Posted March 13th, 2013 by Alina

^ 79 Comments to “Walking away”

  1. BaronVonBorg Says:

    I am so glad that my partners are both huge geeks. 8)

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 4:58 pm
  2. The thought occurs that if Mark was really in love with Jess he wouldn’t have been late in the first place. He’s clearly putting more effort into his LARP relationship with Sarah’s character than he is into his real-life relationship with Jess.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 5:00 pm
  3. D&DPreacher Says:

    Well,Well this looks like the relationship I had just after High school. So the “big blow up” has occurred can’t wait to see what’s next.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 5:02 pm
  4. Wollvenrause Says:

    Wow finally i have been wondering for a while when this would happen. I have been through something like this and its not healthy for either of them. I can’t wait to see what happens next.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 5:08 pm
  5. Chris Says:

    It is hard to say if this is an over reaction or not. Less than six months (four vampire games) have passed since the beginning of the comic. If they had been dating for years maybe they could re balance things and work it out. If they had not been dating long then Jess has been feeling neglected for a big portion of their relationship.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 5:37 pm
  6. Luke Says:

    It’s about bloody time. I knew this would happen and it’s been killing me seeing them dance around it. Good job

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 5:57 pm
  7. KenderBryant Says:

    The big question is, is it permanent? Right now, Jess is hurting and angry. Mark is also angry and defensive. It’s possible they can work it out, but if Jess can’t just accept that Mark’s a geek, then it’s best they just end things, for everyone involved. I think Mark should stay away from the gang for a while. If Sarah were to get involved so soon, it could get uglier. Frankly, Jess better hope that Katie doesn’t find out. Katie might go all Red Sonja on her.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 6:20 pm
  8. Skipster Says:

    We all know it had to happen some time. Really Jess was so shallow she reflected herself. She deserved it for snooping around. Mark isn’t innocent either, but I give him credit for trying to protect himself the moment Jess wasn’t supportive. Although I would have had Mark say you would know whether or not I was with Sarah if you had come to a couple of games… which would have been a little more honest, given Jess pause, and us all a little bit of a breather before the emotional climax.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 6:20 pm
  9. Drraagh Says:

    Maybe I’m in the minority, I don’t know based on the comments here, but I see in-character and real life stuff as two different things. By that I mean, an actor plays a role, and does things in the role which they may not agree with in real life, but it is part of their job. With roleplaying, you could make a racist, sexist, genocidal maniac, but be the most accepting person in real life. So, I don’t see the things Mark has done any worse than a writer writing a story about the same situation.

    Now, trying to explain that to Jess isn’t going to work, until she begins to come to terms with his hobbies. But I don’t think that would go well if she’s still going to ridicule him and so forth for playing games.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 6:21 pm
  10. Shadowcat888 Says:

    He should have kicked her to the curb when he found out she had read his e-mail.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 7:18 pm
  11. Wynni Says:

    It’s hard for many of us to sympathize with Jess, because most of us have had one too many runins with a Judgemental Jess in our lives. I am also going to go out on a limb here, and say that Jess made most of her own grief. Here’s why:
    1. Hard to want to be around someone always putting you and your hobbies down, makes it sooo much easier to justify “just one more thing’ about something that makes you feel good. If anything can be laid at his door, that’s all.
    2. Hard to explain to someone what you’re doing and where you’re going if you know it’s only going to get ridiculed. She not only closed the doors of communication, she slammed and bolted it so no sympathies from me on that score.
    So, there’s my two biggest reasons for saying “So long, and don’t let the door hit’cha where the good lord split’cha.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 7:19 pm
  12. Emmers Says:

    Don’t lie to your partners (not even by omission like this), don’t date people that mock your hobbies, don’t snoop in someone else’s email, and always password-protect your computer, even if you live alone. That about cover it? ๐Ÿ˜€

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 8:38 pm
  13. Shadow Fox Kitfox Says:

    In a way though. He couldn’t trust her – to not make fun of him.
    I was expecting this for a very long time and it is just as emotional as I was thinking – if I weren’t in a public location I would have cried a little during the last couple pages.
    The shame of it is, Jess was invited to at least one geeky hang-out session. However, I don’t think she could wrap her head around anything less mainstream than Monopoly or Jenga… The saddest part is that I have known way too many people like that in real life.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 8:45 pm
  14. Yikes! Yeah I have been wondering when this was going to happen. I can kinda relate to it in a way but yeah – I can see where this was tough to write.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 8:46 pm
  15. WillyDJ Says:

    A potential comic situation would be Jess cooling down and trying to find out about ‘Vampire LARPS’ on her own to see if Mark was telling the truth. Going to the wrong site or even the right one’s could easily give her the wrong idea. Even more amusing would be her joining the LARP with the express goal of getting Mark back.

    Hell hath no fury and all that…

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 10:08 pm
  16. Mike Says:

    That was inevitable, to be honest – it’s hard for a geek to mingle well with someone who isn’t a geek, on a relationship level. I just hope that Mark won’t suddenly decide to start dating Sarah. That would be extremely contrived.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 10:26 pm
  17. Mischa Says:

    @Kalirren – Re “I like how the silent panel in the middle implies Markโ€™s stumbling for comeback…” I didn’t get that at all. Mark just spent the first two panels detailing how she belittles him. I imagine him getting more angry as he goes on. By the middle panel, he isn’t willing to compromise any more. He isn’t willing to offer her a reason she should trust him. But I don’t think the question about being with Sarah was specifically about being with her tonight, I think it was about being in a cheating relationship in general.

    Posted March 13th, 2013 at 11:44 pm
  18. Halzar Says:

    please no sarah and mark hook up!

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 1:46 am
  19. James Says:

    Thank goodness the irritating bitch is gone and we can get on with interesting/likeable characters and plots. ๐Ÿ˜€

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 1:56 am
  20. Bender_Sastre Says:

    I’m not certain which crap I’d prefer feeling like: the crap of being broken up with or the crap of breaking up with someone. I’ve felt both. I’ve also done two-way explosive argument, like what just happened between Mark and Jess. I think that’s actually preferable; you both leave angry, but at least with your dignity intact. Despite all that, probably best to have a reasoned discussion about how it’s not working and part as friends.

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 2:03 am
  21. Satyrwyld Says:

    I am not sure if this has been brought up already, but the VERY FIRST THING we see Jess say in her first appearance is “Don’t you love me any more? Are you cheating on me? Who is she?” Like she’s been waiting for this to happen even before Mark’s geekness came out.

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 2:08 am
  22. Satyrwyld Says:

    Another thought that came just after I hit enter… would people be as upset with Mark if the romantic roleplay were happening with Abbie’s character (since Abbie has no secret romantic interest in Mark)? What if it were Dustin’s PC? (Assuming neither Dustin nor Mark possesses an as-yet irrelevant bisexual nature, there wouldn’t be the possibility of RL romance issues)

    If Mark should have told Jess about Sarah’s PC, what about those situations? Why or why not?

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 2:13 am
  23. cyber dragon Says:

    about time he told her off Jess is the most a-hole characters ever i hate how she acts round mark and his friends i just wish Sarah had been there to remind her how she act like she’s still in high school just please tell me she’s not going to try and be a hunter to get mark back

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 2:22 am
  24. Yeah, about that.... Says:

    @satyrwyld: For me, once Mark decided to take the romantic roleplay out-of-session I feel like he had a responsibility to tell his significant other. Thus, I still feel like he would be in the wrong.

    That said, IMO, where no actual, or potential, romantic undertone to the RPing exists, the seriousness of an offense diminishes, although it doesn’t fully go away because thoughts lead to actions, and in-game actions can have real world repercussions. (Ex. the feelings generated when another player kills your PC “just for fun.”)

    So, Mark RPing a romance with Abbie, or Dustin doesn’t carry the same kind of weight that it does with Sarah. Neither of them have expressed actual romantic interest in Mark. Nor has Mark expressed any interest in return. So, in those cases, as long as it was kept in-session, it would actually be just part of the game. (Although, depending on how those progressed, he might still, at some point, end up with a responsibility to tell his significant other.)

    I don’t think that most in-session romance is wrong, but I do think because of all the external factors involved with Sarah and Jess that Mark crossed a line he shouldn’t have, especially once he took it out-of-session. And, while he’s a little slow on the uptake sometimes, he’s smart enough to know that he shouldn’t have crossed that line.

    All that said, I’ve anticipated this fight for a long time, and Alina really delivered. Now I’m hoping that we’ll eventually see: Jess the Weregeek Hunter. That would be awesome.

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 3:08 am
  25. Maryxus Says:

    Yeah, I kind of don’t agree with Jess. Mark really ought to have talked to her in depth about his problem with her mocking his hobbies earlier, and dumped her ass for that if she couldn’t or wouldn’t deal, but it’s true that he has tried in the past to no avail.

    I’d also argue that from Jess’ perspective, Sarah really shouldn’t be more of an issue than any other character, because Sarah has never mentioned her romantic feelings for Mark to Mark or to Jess. We know about them as the reader, but Mark is blissfully unaware, elsewise I think he never would’ve continued with the RP situation with Sarah.

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 3:14 am
  26. GBlackthorne Says:

    I saw this coming for a while, lack of mutual interests. And both are at fault. Yes Jess could have been more understanding, but Mark could have tried harder to blend their interests. Why couldn’t he have painted his warhammer figures while she did her crafts and they watched tv together. Its that together but seperate component that I have found with my friends but still seek romantically.

    I worry about Sarah because I think she’ll feel guilty. She knows that her feelings for Mark, but Mark doesn’t. So there is a lot of possibility for misunderstandings and broken hearts.

    Love the comic by the way. Brought up a lot of emotions, I’ve had a version of this fight. Never fun.

    Posted March 14th, 2013 at 9:54 am
  27. Alondro Says:

    *the shadow Charline de Lyon grins evily from.. uhm.. the shadows* Excellent! He is ready to join my army of angsty, RAEG-filled geeks! Soon we shall emerge and conquere the feeble mundanes! *A sinister plot with malevolent intentions!*

    Posted March 18th, 2013 at 1:42 pm
  28. alex Says:

    this makes me sad! i’ve been in/seen geek/non-geek relationships, and i know they can work, but i’ve never seen it, i always liked that there was a long term relationship like that in this series, even if you’ve foreshadowed this happening for years, i’ve dreaded it. it was just nice seeing a geek/non-geek relationship working.

    Posted March 19th, 2013 at 1:00 pm
  29. Dave C Says:

    I’m cathcing up after the birth of my son and found this excellent strip. Great job, Alina!

    So I am going to go out on a limb and say that Mark probably has more responsibility than Jess in the breakup. It has nothing to do with being late (Marc is who he is, being late is not a statement about how much he loves or doesn’t love Jess), or with the e-mails between him and Sarah. The problem is that Mark has not had enough confidence in himself or in the strength of their relationship to really explain his enjoyment of his hobby, and explain how Jess’ attitude makes him feel.

    If the person you love is hurting you, even inadvertently, you have to make them understand what they are doing. If they cannot or will not learn and stop hurting you, then the relationship will become a poisonous situation with you suffering until you cannot take it anymore. At that point, hopefully it ends only with a breakup and hurt feelings.

    Posted March 26th, 2013 at 12:05 pm