Your head a splode
Your head a splode

Some conversations are just like that.

News: Posted May 21st, 2015 by Alina

^ 41 Comments to “Your head a splode”

  1. Lu Says:

    There it is the conversation many were asking for.
    Totally love it.
    Thank you Alina!

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 3:28 am
  2. Jiqs Says:

    I hope that’s a happy mind ‘splosion.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 3:32 am
  3. plus1d6 Says:

    Mark:Your head explodes due to that explanation. Make a willpower save of 35 or take 5d6 chaotic damage and become confused.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 4:43 am
  4. Rafinius Says:

    I’m still annoyed by the way this was hidden from us the readers only to make a forced “big reveal”. It doesn’t make sense after hovering over Ravenia and Dustin on their first date and later on too.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 4:46 am
  5. GeekyDom Says:

    Actually I think this was a perfect way to show Ravenia explaining to Mark what Poly is. The people who already know don’t need an explanation, and the people who don’t are free to educate themselves. This saves Alina from taking any additional flack/hate mail from trolls who think they know everything or are morally superior to everyone else.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 6:04 am
  6. Sigurther Says:

    That someone is truly this clueless really tests my suspension of disbelief ability.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 6:44 am
  7. votter Says:

    As someone who is poly amorous this speaks to me. I often meet people who have no clue what it is and often don’t understand very Well even after explaining. I just end up saying it is an open relationship for ease of understanding.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 6:56 am
  8. Almarath Says:

    @Sigurther: You obviously are new to the internet then.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 6:59 am
  9. Silv Says:

    @Rafinius and Sigurther

    It’s not that hard to believe that it just never came up in a way we can see. It obviously was for the reveal, but it’s not a huge thing. And I didn’t know what Polyamory was for a LONG time. A HUGE number of people don’t.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 7:14 am
  10. DC 20 Fort Says:

    I can imagine exactly what is being said with how many times I’ve had that conversation and the the reactions.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 7:22 am
  11. Enkrod Says:

    @Sigurther: Really? Because when this exact same situation happened to me in real life, I think I was even MORE clueless.

    That was in 2002 though and I did live a pretty “protected” live.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 7:50 am
  12. Razor Says:

    At his age in the modern world…yeah. At the very least someone should be able to figure out a rough meaning from context and from the parts of the word.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 7:57 am
  13. AnonymousPerson Says:

    I’d believe because I can be that clueless.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 8:35 am
  14. Mark has repeatedly demonstrated his ability to be completely clueless since this comic began. His naivete, and refusal to admit his naivete is a basic part of the comic from day 1. And part of what makes him so fun to mess with!

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 8:38 am
  15. Fragnarok Says:

    I’ve been there in pretty much that exact conversation. It’s surprisingly easy to ‘splode a head if you come far enough out of left field.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 8:58 am
  16. ozziog Says:

    Its fine everyone, I got this. I have my block and tackle, +5 vs. Disbelief. (Ah adnd humour nevrr gets old.)

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 9:17 am
  17. Nespa Says:

    like katie once said ‘mark is a nice guy and al but you can put him on fire and al he wil ask is ‘hey is it getting hot in here?’ 😛

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 9:27 am
  18. Xavian Says:

    mark may be a good looking guy but his head just isn’t screwed on straight. haha. I’ve been waiting for him and Sarah to admit their feeligns to each other, but now I’m starting to think she’s too good for him.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 9:37 am
  19. Rob Says:

    I’m just disappointed that the Poly stuff was brought in at all. It’s just such a cliche any more – The gamer/goth/poly thing. Why not make them all Wiccan and smelly. Then our gamer stereotype would be complete.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 9:56 am
  20. Anon Says:

    I find this whole arc to be super annoying and a poor portrayal of a healthy poly relationship. Speaking as someone in a healthy poly relationship there should have been a discussion with all parties in attendance about intentions. That’s USUALLY how it goes, you send a message to the new party saying, “hey, we should chat about this sometime if you are interested” and then everyone has an open discussion.

    Also, way to be a jerk Mark, if he didn’t know about them being a poly couple he should have immediately told Dustin. That’s just being a bad friend, and OBVIOUSLY someone who isn’t suited for this lifestyle.

    In general this just feels like a lame way to create “drama” while not actually committing to the drama. The audience should have known by now, or had some hint, and Katie shouldn’t have been used as a validation of our frustration… It just feels forced. Also, I’m a little bored with the ZOMG GOTH CULTURE!!! Poly isn’t just for goths, and I know that’s not the point here, it’s just a tiny thing that I consistently see in this comic that makes me roll my eyes.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 10:03 am
  21. Skatie Says:

    I think one glaring question is: if Mark is this clueless, why is Ravenia interested? Insight check, honey – cute naïveté only has so much appeal. (Also, Cute Naïveté tends to get his feelings hurt pretty easily.)

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 10:03 am
  22. Bruceski Says:

    Don’t jump down a guy’s throat just because he’s never heard of polyamory. Everything’s new the first time you hear about it. If I hadn’t lucked into a particular circle of friends in college I still wouldn’t know anyone who was poly, bi, transgender, aromantic, or pretty much anything else. It’s quite an interesting circle of friends, I’m the token straight/cis/etcetera guy.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 11:23 am
  23. BritDK Says:

    I really want to know what was actually said…

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 11:43 am
  24. Quinn Says:

    Ah… my life. Thanks Alina! 😉

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 11:48 am
  25. Quinn Says:

    @BritDK I can give you a rundown, lol “Blah blah honesty, blah blah blah open communication, blah blah blah concent, blah blah everything is unique.”

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 11:50 am
  26. Trigger Says:

    Homestarrunner reference!!!!!!!!!!! If you don’t know then check this out

    https://youtu.be/7oe3ZSMzvJU?t=1m22s

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 1:13 pm
  27. Anna Says:

    @Anon The writer is not required to tell the story how you would like it to be told. As a human who likes stories, I would rather see the jokes than the five page exposition. This isn’t a how-to-have-a-poly-relationship instruction manual; it’s a comic made to be funny.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 4:02 pm
  28. Scott Driscoll Says:

    As someone who has had this happen and caused this to happen. I approve of the depiction. 8)

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 5:29 pm
  29. Moon Says:

    Am I the only one who finds it extremly odd that Ravenia just assumed Mark knew?

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 6:22 pm
  30. Lukkai Says:

    Yeah, from Ravenia’s face in last panel, she did not have that kind of response for the first time. (^_^)

    Very in-character for both parties involved, really.

    And I wonder about certain criticism here. So, because Ravenia is part of the goth scene she can’t be poly now because that would be bad writing? And just as a little reality check, people: If we count goth club visits in, nearly everyone in the cast is part of the goth scene. Is that a sign of bad writing and cliche-mongering too?

    And before someone starts with “Yes, putting all larpers on the spot like that is! They’re not all fans of the goth scene!”
    Probably not. But I’ll have to add this: Of the say three dozen people I most often to larp with, every single one does like goth music and fashion (whether it be wearing it or just looking at people in it) and have been spotted by me happily listening to the first or outright being in a goth club (of which our local one closed down some years ago, unfortunately). And I’ve heard the same from a good number of other gaming groups. So even if that is a cliche, it’s one heavily founded on reality.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 7:45 pm
  31. SF Kitfox Says:

    Mark has quite the reputation of being naive, as well as being from a very ‘normy’ backgound. The ideas of anything beyond “straight” and “gay” one-on-one relationships are probably as foreign to him as are to many people. The differences is, instead of getting scared and hateful (like most of society) about the stuff he doesn’t understand, Mark also has shown the trend that he tries to try to better educate himself so he does understand. This, I like. His education started with the ‘nerdy’, like LARPing, and has continued to expand from there.

    Now what I want to know is what white chunks are exploding off of him?

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 8:56 pm
  32. Mturtle7 Says:

    I love how clueless Mark is because he makes me feel very clever and well-informed, even though I only have the most basic idea of what polyamorous means.

    Posted May 21st, 2015 at 9:22 pm
  33. AtWork Says:

    @Rob
    “I’m just disappointed that the Poly stuff was brought in at all. It’s just such a cliche any more – The gamer/goth/poly thing. Why not make them all Wiccan and smelly. Then our gamer stereotype would be complete.”

    Pretty much the same here. It just seems so forced and sudden. And it kind-of smacks a bit like “Everyone is talking about it, so it has to be in the comic sometime”.

    However at least it’s not preachy about it. I’ve seen many other webcomics going about thit topic and trying to shove “Polyamory is BEST” down their viewer’s throats. As a monogamous person, I found those instances cringeworthy at best and insulting at worst.

    Posted May 22nd, 2015 at 12:50 am
  34. DarQuing Says:

    The key to a poly relationship, any relationship for that matter, is open and honest communication. And in Mark’s defense, I don’t think it was as obvious as Ravenia believes it was.

    Posted May 22nd, 2015 at 2:06 am
  35. TheOtherDibbler Says:

    I’m still waiting to hear Dustin’s side of things, if he’s really as cool with a non-monogamous relationship as Ravenia is implying. I have a friend who was in a ‘non-exclusive’ relationship with a poly guy, then they decided to get married and have kids and be monogamous, but he found it hard to stay monogamous and wasn’t honest about it which resulted in a betrayal of trust and eventually a bitter divorce. So I am all for polygamous/polyamorous relationships, but all parties involved need to be cool with it or badness may ensue. So yeah, I’m waiting to hear from Dustin before I decide if I’m okay with Ravenia’s actions. From Alina’s comments I’m assuming it’s no big deal, but I prefer to know rather than assume.

    Posted May 22nd, 2015 at 4:07 am
  36. Lord V Says:

    Hm, I guess it’s consistent to lean into the idealistic and comedic direction with where you are taking this story arc. Though personally I would have preferred it to be a little more conflicted/human/realistic. Dustin, the big nerdy guy, who has been introduced as rather inexperienced and insecure in dating, totally down and cool with his hot goth girlfriend making out with one of his close gaming friends who also happens to be good-looking and fit? In an ideal world, yes. In the real world? Hardly. He might say so for fear of losing Ravenia but it’ll still hurt him. So both Mark and Ravenia would be better advised to leave each other alone. If they were, you know. Real people.

    Posted May 22nd, 2015 at 5:52 am
  37. AtWork Says:

    @Lord V

    Very well said.

    Posted May 23rd, 2015 at 8:48 am
  38. Lukkai Says:

    @Lord V: If they were, you know, real people, then one of their foremost characteristic would be that you can’t just put them all into a box and claim “This is how they act!”
    So in the real world? Dustin might be just as down and cool with it as in a fictional world. Be that “totally”, “not at all” or anything in between.

    Posted May 23rd, 2015 at 10:29 pm
  39. Oddtail Says:

    “Am I the only one who finds it extremly odd that Ravenia just assumed Mark knew?”

    No, you’re not the only one. To be honest, I’d go a step further and say that she acted in a way that I find somewhat distasteful.

    I’m all for polyamory, just like I’m really happy with people who are vehemently monogamous, with people who would just rather be left alone, or any variation or combination of those. But as much as it irks me how little people know (and how intolerant they can be) of anything outside the “norm”, it’s still – well, the norm, according to most people.

    Exclusive relationships are still the default, for the most part, and are a safe and reasonable assumption. It has been played up for comedy’s sake, big time, but Mark’s been made REALLY uncomfortable by Ravenia’s actions. Sure, he’s clueless, but that’s still a rather shitty thing to do. He deserves to be informed of the situation, and he could be uncomfortable with the situation for any number of reasons, even if he knew.

    And maybe I’m imagining things, but I think the situation would read a lot differently if it wasn’t a really hot chick smooching a clueless dude out of the blue.

    And sure, Mark is into her, and he’s happy and whatnot. Happy ending, yay. But that doesn’t retroactively change what I have a problem with regarding the earlier scenes.

    To be honest, if I was single, and a girl who’s interested in me (and vice versa) made moves on me without being up front about being polyamorous, I’d probably lose all interest and be all “nope, nope, nope” for the fact that I was put in an awkward situation and given little information.

    But maybe that’s just me.

    Posted May 24th, 2015 at 10:57 am
  40. No, Oddtail, it is not just you. I think that Ravenia has acted rather unclassily. My reasoning is much the same as yours.

    Posted May 25th, 2015 at 3:34 am
  41. Lukkai Says:

    My problem with that is that your reasoning is based on a very incomplete picture. Neither of us know how much Ravenia has talked with the people around her about it. And Mark has been part of her closer circle of acquaintances for a while now. It might even have been mentioned in his presence before and he just missed it. I can’t even count the number of times people in my gaming group just assumed I knew something. But it turned out I wasn’t listening to their conversation when they talked about it or not even present and they remembered that incorrectly.
    So her assumption might actually be pretty reasonable. We just don’t know.
    That of course does not invalidate your opinion. I’d just advise not to judge all too early.

    Posted May 25th, 2015 at 9:51 pm