We’re back!
We’re back!

Hey everyone! Hope you had a happy new year! We’re back with a new chapter, and from those ears that Mark is packing, it looks like we’re heading back to the Changeling LARP!

News: Posted January 7th, 2019 by Alina

^ 26 Comments to “We’re back!”

  1. Dullahan Says:

    Bad Mark! No lying about your feelings in poly relationships. That will hurt everyone involved.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 5:00 am
  2. Xadah Says:

    I knew it, when this poly relationship came up, I knew its not Marks thing

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 5:15 am
  3. Peya Luna Says:

    this is going to be so hilarious, cause we all know that mark is the king of awkward

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 5:50 am
  4. Aita Says:

    Be honest and you’ll be fine, Mark.

    It’s only complicated until you figure it out; then the network of support is *excellent*.

    Metamours are amazing~

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 6:19 am
  5. SeriousBiz Says:

    While openness and honesty is a huge bonus in any kind of relationship, it’s absolutely crucial in an open or poly relationship. If Mark is uncomfortable with meeting Ravenia’s other partners (excluding Dustin of course, since the two were already friends), he has to communicate his feelings. He is not wrong to feel the way he does, but unaddressed feelings will only lead to bitterness. A considerate partner will not judge him for having those feelings, and will avoid putting him in a difficult situation until such a time he might be ready for it. Similarly, if Mark wants to continue the relationship, he has to start setting his own boundaries and make them known. Nobody is a mind reader. If he decides Ravenia having other romantic and sexual partners is in and of itself a problem, then the relationship has no future.

    That being said, I love how this comic handles relationship problems. Nobody is a shining example of maturity all the time, and everyone has their weak points. Ravenia is very open about being poly and probably expects everyone to respect that: as such, she might expect her partners to bring up if something is bothering them, but she might not go out of her way to dig up unvoiced opinions. Mark probably wants to be okay with how things are, but he is clearly not: as he is the most “normal” one in the extended group of friends, i.e. the one who has the easiest time meeting society’s expectations, he will always have the hardest time ignoring the expectations of normalcy, be it in geekdom, dress code, lifestyle or relationships.

    Will Mark learn a new life lesson, or will his new relationship fall apart because it’s ultimately too weird for him (ironically enough, since his last relationship ended partly because Jess thought his new life was too weird for her)? Whatever happens, it will be interesting to see how things plays out. The comic has a tendency to throw curve balls and subvert expectations.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 8:12 am
  6. Oddtail Says:

    I find it difficult to sympathise with Mark, here.

    I get it – poly relationships are not for everyone. I can relate – I don’t think I could handle being in one.

    But here’s the trick I use to solve that. I’m not in one. I am in a monogamous relationship, with a person who is into that kind of dynamic as well.

    If Mark doesn’t want a relationship on such terms, he should quit. Or at the very least, talk about it.

    Also, the way he phrases his discomfort – “icky”? Really? What specifically is icky about a poly relationship? Heck, what’s icky about a poly relationship that he couldn’t foresee BEFORE ENTERING ONE?

    People who want to be in exclusive relationships I’m cool with. People who want to be in poly relationships are awesome as well. People who prefer to fly solo, I’m down with that.

    Mark, however, seems a bit like a “have his cookie and eat it too” kind of guy, at the moment. That can suck for him, but it will certainly suck for other people involved if he doesn’t grow up.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 8:28 am
  7. Fabfunk von Cronenberg Says:

    You’re entering an exciting new world, Mark. Give it a chance!

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 10:30 am
  8. Quixote Says:

    I dont think its lying so much that he thought he’d be ok with it at first, but now being faced with it he realized he wasnt so ok. If that makes sense

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 10:55 am
  9. Sigurther Says:

    Dude. You’re not okay with her being polyamorous, and that’s okay. Explain it to her and move on, stop beating around the bush. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and most of them won’t require you to share them with other sharks. XD

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 11:01 am
  10. Eva Says:

    I was getting less the feeling that Mark was lying as Mark was not processing his feelings very well so he’s failing at communication. I’m also curious to see if there’s something going on beyond jealousy, since Mark has never shown any sign of issues with Dustin (maybe I’m wrong, but I always got the impression Dustin was her primary partner; but I don’t think they talked about it “on camera” so maybe I’m just wrong there). Possibly there are some other interesting subtleties here.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 12:36 pm
  11. I was getting^W worried. Did I miss an announcement? (I have had on-line comics die on me, and it often starts with a hiatus.)

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 1:05 pm
  12. Heather Ross Says:

    I have every confidence that Alina will handle this whole situation well, as someone above pointed out, she’s done a fantastic job with other relationships in the past.

    I do not have as much confidence in Mark: “complicated and icky”? Really, man?

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 2:16 pm
  13. Nep Says:

    I am also on Team Mark needs out of this relationship because he can’t handle it. Calling it icky? Icky?? That you’re going to see your girlfriend’s other boyfriends? Get out and grow up, boy.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 2:26 pm
  14. Stephen Says:

    I think it’s time you just admit that the arrangement isn’t working for you. And be honest, it really is you. You’re a bit forgetful and you really just don’t quite fit well in the relationship.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 2:29 pm
  15. V Says:

    I think for all those people unsympathetic with Mark, while it’s true that this is 100% his fault and he’s had Ravenia try to open him up… An important thing to remember that while this is Mark’s usual modus operandi, he’s very used to swallowing what he wants to do and being in an unhealthy relationship. See: His breakup with his previous GF, and how she treated him.

    I think being too hard on him, even if he IS in the wrong, is bad. He’s just learned to do relationships the wrong way, and he totally believes he’s trying to do what ‘his girlfriend’ would prefer (that he swallow down his discomfort, put on his best face, and pretend).

    He’s not trying to be a dick. Pretty much the opposite- He knows he lied to her now about being okay with a poly relationship, because he was willing to try it and wanted to put his best foot forwards, but he doesn’t want to end the relationship.

    Mark can’t do a poly relationship, but he’s working within what he’s learned is best, wrong though it may be.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 3:47 pm
  16. TCS Says:

    Happy New Year and welcome back!

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 4:57 pm
  17. DarknessShallFall Says:

    Welcome to my world Mark, I’ve been complicated since before I was even conception.

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 5:26 pm
  18. Jess Says:

    I though Ravena (spelling?) was only in the Vampire larp. I don’t remember seeing her in the previous Changeling arcs at all (I’ve reread them a few times since that my favourite storyline). Or is she just joining Changeling now?

    Posted January 8th, 2019 at 11:46 pm
  19. Ozzi Says:

    This is mark’s first polycule. It takes time to adjust it all. I get the feeling he is OK with Dustin as he is a friend and he knows him. However what everyone is forgetting also this could be social anxiety of meeting the unknown. Any new partner means less Ravenia to go around and especially if this dude is a larper. So this is not lying about anything just social butterflies.

    Posted January 9th, 2019 at 12:53 am
  20. Fabfunk von Cronenberg Says:

    I’m still hoping for the Mark/Abby ship to sail. I could totally see him trying to handle Ravenia’s poly relationship, freaking out, and then ending up in Abby’s arms.

    Posted January 9th, 2019 at 9:16 am
  21. Grampybone Says:

    If this doesn’t work out for Mark and Ravenia, Is there anyone else who think Mark and Abby would super adorable together.

    Posted January 9th, 2019 at 9:51 am
  22. Nespa Says:

    I agree with ozzi, it’s possible he means something else with icky the relationship. After all, why would it not be icky with Dustin but with a stranger it is. with Dustin he can lose a friend with a stranger he not really has a lot to lose other then ravenia. it can also be the discomfort off meeting someone new.

    Posted January 9th, 2019 at 1:43 pm
  23. Alvarios Says:

    I think the “icky” part is just him realizing that the whole poly relationship does not end with him and Dustin (which he was sort-of-okay with). Until now that thought rested in the back of his mind, but now that the new boyfriend comes into play, Mark may just realize that he does not want/like a poly relationship.

    I mean he didn’t seem very into it to begin with, I really can’t see him and Ravenia being an ongoing thing – in addition I can’t really see Dustin and her being that.

    On a sidenote, Ravenia’s line that she has all of her poly partners in the same place might also contribute to Mark’s stress here:

    It’s fine vor Ravenia, she is the center of the attention, having three partners on site. We do not know however if any of these three partners have other partners (I guess we do for Dustin and Mark). So the whole construct may come across as very “unfair” in Mark’s eyes, since Ravenia gets everything she wants, but the same does not go for her partners.

    Again, this is part guesswork but I have witnessed it enough times to know that these situations can be quite common in a poly relationship. In any case, Mark should tell her about it and (IMHO) look for a monogamous relationship. Ravenia was a nice filler for him but nothing with substance.

    Posted January 10th, 2019 at 2:37 am
  24. Jenny Says:

    Gah, this is reminding me of how I was treated when I was /told/ I was in a poly relationship.

    I know it wasn’t a poly relationship /now/, but my girlfriend told me, while I was in…whatever-it-was, that the reason she had to be polyamorous was because I was boring and stupid and could never satisfy her the way her other partners did, but I was fun to play with, so she kept me around.

    Posted January 10th, 2019 at 3:49 am
  25. JackOKnives Says:

    I think people are coming out a little hard on ol’ Mark here. Yes, he agreed to be part of a poly relationship. One of Mark’s strengths is that he’s willing to try something outside of his comfort zone (if this were not true, he wouldn’t even be a cast member, so this is kind of a defining trait of his). That having been said, he’s straight, so being introduced to a new male partner isn’t exciting to him. Meeting someone for the first time, only knowing that “we love the same woman” isn’t going to be a pleasant feeling, some anxiety is bound to follow that. After all, what if you don’t hit it off, what kind of position does that put Ravena in?

    More importantly, to Mark, gaming is his fun time. He is always portrayed as excited for whatever game he’s going to. Now his relationship is intruding into his fun time (which is a problem that monogamous people have sometimes, without the added stress of meeting a new person). Ironically, if Mark had been introduced to Damien as a new player first, he likely wouldn’t bat an eye, he’s always been pretty inclusive as a game (perhaps because his own newbie days are still fresh for him).

    But, as I said, Mark is willing to try things, so he doesn’t shoot the meeting down out of hand. He’ll meet Damien, and, who knows, maybe they will hit it off. It clearly makes Ravena happy, so he’s willing to step out of his comfort zone again. I don’t think privately expressing some exasperation at his night having an additional layer of social performance tacked onto it is indicative of a character failing on his part.

    Posted January 10th, 2019 at 8:49 am
  26. Quarion Says:

    Wahoo! back to the changeling LARP, was really looking forward to that 🙂

    Posted January 10th, 2019 at 6:25 pm