Cheekbones
Cheekbones

Beautiful, beautiful cheekbones.

News: Posted March 18th, 2019 by Alina

^ 27 Comments to “Cheekbones”

  1. KSClaw Says:

    Mike honey, if that’s how you’re feeling about this… then I don’t think Poly is for you.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 4:00 am
  2. Shinjischneider Says:

    Oh boy.

    I think it’s time for a real timeout and to stop Marc from continuing to speak. Otherwise i know exactly where this is going and i already dread it.

    Ravennia and Damien walking in on this discussion, a huge fight etc. etc. etc.

    I’m still not over the shitfest that was the Vampire Larp. I don’t want the next LARP-Storyline being burried in Drama because some people aren’t able to communicate in a smart manner.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 6:17 am
  3. Hannah Says:

    Well, this I can understand – like, from personal experience. My girlfriend is poly and that jealousy can be an ugly thing. I’m just glad that that’s what’s the cause is of all this and not (as I was thinking from past pages) still lingering Jess-related insecurity.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 9:22 am
  4. TheDarkTyger Says:

    Oh, that time out is not helping Mark at all. ๐Ÿ™

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 9:42 am
  5. doLst Says:

    Methinks it’s not Damien about whom he’s actually upset. It’s himself.
    Also, poly ain’t for him!

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 11:23 am
  6. Jess Says:

    Sigh, Mark… please just admit that poly is not for you. Or that this poly relationship is not for you. I’m happy to see that Dustin is comfortable with the poly relationship though. (I remember many doubting comments at the start of this arc).

    Also I’m a bit confused that the blog post says this comic was posted on the 18th – because I definitely checked the site yesterday and the day before (ie. 19th and 20th) and it was still showing the previous comic??

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 12:03 pm
  7. Josh Says:

    … Is Mark just jealous?

    Or…hate to say it, but is he hot for metamour?

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 1:03 pm
  8. Thulcandran Says:

    I was actually really hoping to see a version of this conversation between Mark and Dustin. Lots of folks have commented on Mark being hot, a hunk, cute, etc., whereas although Dustin’s quite attractive and has self-confidence now, we saw with his brother’s visit that he’s also been made aware of how he doesn’t fit exactly into conventional attractiveness measures. So, though he clearly Gets polyamory as she is played, he may well have had a twinge of insecurity when Ravenia decided to pursue his tall, good-hair-having, strong-jawed gaming friend. But he was able to get past it by remembering all of the above, and hopefully he can get Mark to see that – and if not, they can have a Mature Adult Conversation about the choices of polyamory and monogamy.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 1:08 pm
  9. Redwaters Says:

    Being a new comer to poly isn’t easy. It is hard to know where you got in the relationship and where they fit into yours. If Ravine and Damien are good at what they know about poly, they will not be quick to get into a fight and help Mark understand that what he is feeling is natural so long as you dont let it get blow out of control.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 1:42 pm
  10. Jade Says:

    I really hate to say it, mostly because the current usage doesn’t match my understanding of the original intent of the statement… But Mark is struggling with a level of toxicity left over from his previous relationship. That’s the thing about an environment… Something in which someone else can thrive in perfectly well can be absolutely toxic to another person, and toxicity spreads… That’s why we encourage people to remove themselves from toxic situations… It isn’t because it makes them misserable… It’s because toxicity spreads… If you remain in a situation that is toxic to you, YOU become toxic.

    And as much of a sweetheart and puppy as Mark is, he has shown a propensity for putting himself (or failing to extract himself) from situations which poison his psyche, and if he remains in his current situation without addressing that, he’s going to have toxic effects on everyone near him, not to mention his own self-destruction.

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 3:13 pm
  11. loveinteressted Says:

    “pretty hair” and “cheekbones” – Mark noticed quiete a lot about him.
    Are we now allowed to ship them? ^^

    Posted March 21st, 2019 at 6:49 pm
  12. Stumpy the Paladin Says:

    What is there to ship? Mark doesnt put any thought into what attracts him beyond “oooh, she’s pretty” as far as we know.

    As to him noticing how that damien is Attractive…

    Damien is pretty much a masculine variant of Ravenna
    Or
    Ravenna is a feminine variant of Damien.

    Like two peas in a pod.

    the hair, the style of dress, what they see in others, completing each others sentences …

    One could mistake them for fraternal twins.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 12:18 am
  13. Chaucer59 Says:

    Maybe Iโ€™m projecting my own bisexuality here, or did anyone else get the impression Damien thinks Mark is hot? I get that Mark thought Ravenia and D were laughing at him, but what I heard was more along the line of, โ€œYou were right, heโ€™s adorable. Ohmigod, the blushing is SO CUTE.โ€ Also, jealousy is sometimes another facet of desire. How will Mark respond to Ravenia asking him to join them in a threesome?

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 1:08 am
  14. Eliz Says:

    I like where this is going. I’m glad someone got Mark to talk about what’s going on inside his head. If he keeps it all bottled up, he’ll never be happy. I think he needs to talk to Damien and get to know him as a person instead of an idea. It’s impossible to stack up to an idea, but a person? They are easier to identify with.

    Also, If Mark is really going to give poly a chance, he might need to find another partner to spend time with. It’ll give him another place to tirn to for support and he’ll see from a diferent angle what having more than one partner is like.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 8:11 am
  15. Fabfunk von Cronenberg Says:

    Vanity… definitely my favorite sin.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 9:04 am
  16. Joe Says:

    Clearly what Mark was hoping was for a monogamous relationship. Which makes him a not very good person, IMO, since essentially he wanted to steal Ravena from Justin.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 9:08 am
  17. Will Says:

    OH THANK GOODNESS.

    This is healthy. This is very healthy. Not 100% healthy, since venting to another member of the polycule can spark drama, but talking about it is healthy. Getting it out in the open is healthy. Admitting it is healthy.

    And hopefully we don’t go the route of Ravenia walking in and it being a misunderstanding because like… we’ve had a lot of those. For once, I’d love for it to come to a conclusion of, even if they have to break up, one that doesn’t involve someone not just expressing what they feel. Breaking up when you mutually understand that you feeling this level of jealousy isn’t conducive to a healthy relationship isn’t bad.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 11:02 am
  18. Eva Says:

    Hmmm… Mark, while I get that these are natural, normal feelings in this situation, I’m starting to think that maybe being in a polycule is not something you’re well suited for. Take some deep breaths, hon, and maybe consider backing out of this if it’s messing your head up this bad. ๐Ÿ™

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 12:01 pm
  19. Pax Says:

    Dustin groks polyamory. Thoroughly.

    For Mark, this is all too new for him to have come to terms with it. His natural biological impulse (reinforced by one-for-one-is-the-only-way social indoctrination) are both well established and deeply entrenched. It’s going to take him some time to work through all that.

    Luckily, Damien and Ravennia have apparently done this dance before – introducing polyamory to a newbie, I mean. As long as Mark doesn’t lose it completely, go off the deep end, and blow up at either or both of them, I’m betting they know he has a lot of baggage to work through before he’s A-Okay with it.

    Heavens know, _I_ needed well over two years, to work through the instinctive feelings of jealousy and fears of inadequacy, when I was first in a relationship with a polyamorous woman.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 1:35 pm
  20. Rabidon Says:

    Pretty hair? Cool makeup? Maybe for R’lyeh’s standards.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 10:39 pm
  21. Bruceski Says:

    Back in college a friend of mine liked a guy so much she thought she could be poly for him, and found out she couldn’t. This is all feeling very familiar.

    Posted March 22nd, 2019 at 11:00 pm
  22. Lorkonius Says:

    This is why poly is not for anyone.

    Posted March 23rd, 2019 at 1:14 pm
  23. Blackjoker Says:

    I think part of the problem is this, if memory serves Ravenia had told Mark that she thought he was cute. He is now seeing someone that, to him at least, is infinitely more attractive than him and also far more Ravenias ‘type.’ Ravenia seems to be interested in the games (she has talked to Dustin about them) and many geeky things but she seems also mystified by a lot of it.

    Let’s look back at the whole thing with Jess, I think Mark is dealing with this idea that something is wrong with him. (one of the reasons why I dislike the hunter-larp reveal is actually because it took away a kind of meta commentary on how geeks can be viewed as freakish and unpleasant by mainstream society even if geeky stuff is more popular now). He was lonely and depressed before Ravennia asked him to dance and basically made him a part of the relationship, now he sees someone that…well he can’t compete with, he can’t find anything that he is better at or more worthwhile in. Sarah found someone as well and I can imagine that Mark may have had some feelings he ultimately buried them and moved on. But there is a part of him saying that he is going to be alone, that at best he can be with someone who would be willing to be with multipe guys, but hey, he’s still second best, at best.

    Posted March 24th, 2019 at 3:33 am
  24. Azraphon Says:

    Well @Lorkonius it’s for quite a few people! Just not everyone, and not for Mark.

    This storyline is important because a lot of geeks see poly as inherently more evolved, and monogamy as this old fashioned thing. But the truth is far more complex; what works for some folks doesn’t work for everyone.

    Posted March 24th, 2019 at 4:44 am
  25. Blackjester Says:

    This is just my two cents and I apologize if you disagree or someone said this already. How I see it Mark is kind of being a jerk, he was ok with Dustin being there because one he was there first and two from the way he is talking I feel he thinks he is better then Dustin. The whole what does he have that I dont comment made me think this. He is secure with Dustin because he feels he has more then Dustin. But if I am wrong please correct me

    Posted March 24th, 2019 at 2:19 pm
  26. Aitamen Says:

    He’s got a *lot* of insecurity to work through, and I’m really happy that Dustin is being an awesome metamour and helping him.

    Personally, I’d bring Everyone in and mediate and let everyone talk the thing out with hugs and cuddles and conversations.

    Sucks it happens on a game night, but I like that he’s not disrupting things and that everyone’s helping… like holy shit that’s a nice clutch of friends.

    And Mark is dealing with lots of things, but everyone’s showing the healthy way of dealing with them to him, and it’s awfully inspiring, regardless of how he takes it.

    Posted March 25th, 2019 at 1:42 pm
  27. Scia Says:

    Even if you *want* to accept something, that doesn’t mean that it’ll be easy.

    Posted March 25th, 2019 at 2:54 pm