Talking to a professional
Talking to a professional

Everyone needs help sometimes. If you need help, here’s some good resources!
(Sorry overseas folks, I’ve just got the info for US/Canada right now, but if you have good resources, please post them in the comments and I’ll update the list!)

USA/CANADA:
Mental Health America (USA)
Canada Mental Health Association (Canada)
The Trevor Project – Support for LGTBQ2A+ Youth!
Psychology Today: Find a Therapist

Suicide Prevention Hotline (USA)
Crisis Services Canada (Canada)

EUROPE:
European Child Helplines Phone 116111 (Support for Children and Youths)
http://www.nummergegenkummer.de/ (Website of the German Child Helpline with contact information for parents and an email for children who want to write rather than talk)
https://mieli.fi/fi/tukea-ja-apua (Finland)
https://minduu.fi/fi/ (Finland)

AUSTRALIA:
Beyond Blue
https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/
https://www.lifeline.org.au/

News: Posted August 12th, 2019 by Alina

^ 19 Comments to “Talking to a professional”

  1. Marcus Brendon Smit Says:

    I avoided therapy for a long time, mostly due to the cost (money was and still is rather tight), but last month I finally took the plunge.

    I’ve only had two sessions so far, but it’s already helped so much; it made me look at myself and my life from different angles, and has helped me think in less self-deprecating ways.

    As soon as I can scrape together a bit more cash I’ll be finding a local therapist (I moved town recently), and I’m keen to take more steps in bettering my mindset.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 5:30 am
  2. Michael Says:

    European Child Helplines Phone 116111 (Support for Children and Youths)
    http://www.nummergegenkummer.de/ (Website of the German Child Helpline with contact information for parents and an email for children who want to write rather than talk)

    Thanks

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 6:40 am
  3. Steveo Says:

    If you’re down under https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 7:06 am
  4. maarvarq Says:

    I went to a counseller recently, who had absolutely zero useful things to say to me, and we spent the hour circling around the same points. I didn’t go back.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 7:57 am
  5. argentlupus Says:

    Huge thumbs up from me on this post.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 8:03 am
  6. Daniel S. Mountain Says:

    Maybe you don’t always need counseling, maybe you don’t need medication… but there’s always rough patches, and the right therapy can help you get through them.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 8:13 am
  7. Dimin Says:

    Also Psychology Today has an excellent Find A Therapist page (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists) that you can sort by things like insurance or experience with LGB issues. Always double-check the insurance first, but otherwise it’s a great resource for finding good therapists near you.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 10:02 am
  8. Slythytoves Says:

    Yeah, if I hadn’t seen a therapist as a teenager, I likely would still be an emotionless robot, which was a lot easier than facing the hurt and pain I was trying to ignore.

    I am incredibly thankful for the time I spent in therapy.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 11:44 am
  9. Richard Says:

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 4:27 pm
  10. CRB Says:

    Also, most college campuses will have a mental health subsection of their campus health program – and those counselors/therapists you can generally talk to without any additional fee if you already have access to the campus health office. But (at least at both my undergrad and my grad schools) you have to know to go look them up. They don’t exactly advertise.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 6:43 pm
  11. Huttj509 Says:

    CRB, when I was at grad school I had issues. Wound up admitting I needed help, went to the office for a depression screening that they advertised. Some kid at the reception desk.

    “Oh, this is only for Undergrads.”
    “What do grad students do?”
    “Make their own arrangements?”

    That…did not wind up going well for me…

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 7:23 pm
  12. @maarvarq — I’ve been there. Finding the right therapist that you ‘fit’ with is really important. And some of them just don’t know as much as they should. I’m sorry the counselor you saw wasn’t helpful.

    Posted August 12th, 2019 at 9:47 pm
  13. Scott R. Says:

    Thank you for putting this out there. About a year and a half ago, a much-loved 21-year-old cousin died unexpectedly in our home. The therapist I saw was invaluable in helping me find my way through the grief and depression that descended afterward. The hurt never really goes away, but now I’m better able to take it as a part of my life, and cherish the piece of memory that lies at the root of it all.

    Posted August 13th, 2019 at 4:58 pm
  14. Shauku Says:

    Posted August 14th, 2019 at 7:19 am
  15. Stephen Nagy Says:

    I spent most of my childhood in the mental health system, but for me it made it pretty hard to trust doctors. I was a kid during the 1990s and was put on everything from Adderall to Zoloft, most of which I didn’t need but this was before doctors were as honest about the side effects of such. My problems mostly stemmed from an abusive father, bullying at school, and Autism not really being understood as a concept yet.

    But yeah, therapy does help a lot. The only times I felt I really got much help back then were when I got a doctor who’d talk to me rather than write me a scrip for something. Thats not to say that there aren’t people out there who do need medication, its just that in my case I feel like they were trying to medicate away a problem that had a mostly external cause.

    Posted August 14th, 2019 at 7:28 pm
  16. Dave Says:

    I have a few from the uk.

    Samaritans

    Available 24 hours a day to provide confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress, despair or suicidal thoughts.

    http://www.samaritans.org
    116 123 (free to call from within the UK and Ireland), 24 hours a day
    Email: jo@samaritans.org

    Also if you are in crisis mode then send SHOUT to 85258.

    Mind

    Mind offers advice, support and information to people experiencing a mental health difficulty and their family and friends. Mind also has a network of local associations in England and Wales to which people can turn for help and assistance.

    Lines are open Monday to Friday 9am to 6pm (except bank holidays).

    http://www.mind.org.uk
    InfoLine: 0300 123 3393 to call, or text 86463
    Email info@mind.org.uk

    Rethink Mental Illness

    Rethink Mental Illness works to help everyone affected by severe mental illness, such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, recover a better quality of life. It provides effective services and support and campaigns for change through greater awareness and understanding.

    http://www.rethink.org
    National Advice Service: 0300 5000 927 (Open 10am to 2pm, Monday to Friday)
    Email advice@rethink.org

    (Rethink was formerly called the National Schizophrenia Fellowship)

    PAPYRUS UK

    PAPYRUS is the national charity dedicated to the prevention of young suicide. They support young people under 35 who are experiencing thoughts of suicide, as well as people concerned about someone else.

    http://www.papyrus-uk.org
    Helpline: 0800 068 4141
    Text: 07786209697
    Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org

    Open 10am-10pm on weekdays and 2pm-10pm on weekends and bank holidays

    YoungMinds

    http://www.youngminds.org.uk
    Parents helpline: 0808 802 5544 (Mon-Fri from 9.30am to 4pm)
    YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: text YM to 85258

    Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)

    A helpline for men in the UK who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support.

    http://www.thecalmzone.net
    Helpline for men: 0800 58 58 58
    Webchat: http://www.thecalmzone.net/help/webchat/

    5pm to midnight, every day of the year

    Sane

    SANE services provide practical help, emotional support and specialist information to individuals affected by mental health problems, their family, friends and carers.

    Support Forum: http://www.sane.org.uk
    Saneline: 0300 304 7000 (local rate on BT landlines) Open 4:30-10:30pm every day

    NHS mental health services

    Find information, advice and local services on the NHS website. You can also get advice from the NHS 111 phone service.

    Hope these help. I was “lucky” to be under Bupa so had access to their healthy minds service. So had the help I needed. Still not right but I know where to get help if needed.

    Posted August 15th, 2019 at 12:02 pm
  17. Angel Says:

    If it helps any, and if you’re a religious type of person, going to a Pastor or Priest can also be helpful for the whole talking thing if you’re reluctant to go to a professional. Just be careful you’re going to a Good Spiritual Leader instead of…well you know the type.

    Posted August 15th, 2019 at 1:40 pm
  18. bhuss Says:

    here’s a list of resources all over the world

    Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
    Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
    LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
    Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
    Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
    Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
    Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
    Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
    Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
    Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
    Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

    UK Helplines:

    Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail jo@samaritans.org
    Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111
    Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: info@mind.org.uk
    Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 legal@mind.org.uk
    b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: help@b-eat.co.uk
    b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm – 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)
    Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: helpline@cruse.org.uk
    Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600
    Drinkline: 0800 9178282
    Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 – 2.30pm 7 – 9.30pm) e-mail info@rapecrisis.org.uk
    Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight
    India Self Harm Hotline: 00 08001006614
    India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669
    Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868

    FREE 24/7 suicide hotlines:

    Argentina: 54-0223-493-0430
    Australia: 13-11-14
    Austria: 01-713-3374
    Barbados: 429-9999
    Belgium: 106
    Botswana: 391-1270
    Brazil: 21-233-9191
    China: 852-2382-0000
    (Hong Kong: 2389-2222)
    Costa Rica: 606-253-5439
    Croatia: 01-4833-888
    Cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67
    Czech Republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908
    Denmark: 70-201-201
    Egypt: 762-1602
    Estonia: 6-558-088
    Finland: 040-5032199
    France: 01-45-39-4000
    Germany: 0800-181-0721
    Greece: 1018
    Guatemala: 502-234-1239
    Holland: 0900-0767
    Honduras: 504-237-3623
    Hungary: 06-80-820-111
    Iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90
    Israel: 09-8892333
    Italy: 06-705-4444
    Japan: 3-5286-9090
    Latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292
    Malaysia: 03-756-8144
    (Singapore: 1-800-221-4444)
    Mexico: 525-510-2550
    Netherlands: 0900-0767
    New Zealand: 4-473-9739
    New Guinea: 675-326-0011
    Nicaragua: 505-268-6171
    Norway: 47-815-33-300
    Philippines: 02-896-9191
    Poland: 52-70-000
    Portugal: 239-72-10-10
    Russia: 8-20-222-82-10
    Spain: 91-459-00-50
    South Africa: 0861-322-322
    South Korea: 2-715-8600
    Sweden: 031-711-2400
    Switzerland: 143
    Taiwan: 0800-788-995
    Thailand: 02-249-9977
    Trinidad and Tobago: 868-645-2800
    Ukraine: 0487-327715

    Posted August 18th, 2019 at 7:36 am
  19. Guest Says:

    Unfortunately, finding a good therapist is paramount in getting help otherwise you’re not going to resolve anything. A bad therapist could even make things worse or instill in the patient a life-long distrust of therapy as a whole. It tends to be hit or miss with anywhere you go too, they’ll have a mix of good therapists and bad therapists and there’s no telling which you’ll end up with.
    My parents had me in therapy for most of my childhood and teenage years. The first therapist I got was one of the bad ones. She only even discussed one thing with me, gave me one question aside from the standard conversation pleasantries of “how are you” “how was your day today” not even phrased any differently, so every session I would tell her the exact same thing in answer and afterwards the conversation would just die and she would sit there looking like she had no idea what to do for the rest of the hour. It put a bad taste in my mouth about the whole notion of therapy. I went through eight therapists before I finally found a good one. The rest before either didn’t seem to know what they were doing or they wanted everything to fit neatly into a box and refused consider the fact that every person is different and has different needs.
    Then we moved and I had to go to a new place for therapy. I went through five of them there before I turned eighteen, at which point I was able to choose for myself to quit going.
    It was just last year I finally found out that I’m Autistic. Those 14 gave me a different diagnosis each time and some changed it again and again, they just couldn’t quite figure it out. That one good one was the only one out of them to suggest I might be Autistic and should get tested for it by an expert in that area, several years later and it turned out that that single therapist out of everyone that I saw was the only one that actually had a clue.

    Posted August 18th, 2019 at 9:12 am