Talk it out, Mark! Talk it out.

News: Posted October 29th, 2019 by Alina

^ 16 Comments to “Therapy”

  1. Hfar Says:

    A good therapist will always ask you the armor piercing questions.

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 12:04 am
  2. Peter Serrano Says:

    I like the way you’re showing how talking to a therapist or someone close to you can really open your mind. It’s a very hard process for anyone to admit their faults, but allows growth.

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 2:01 am
  3. Ice Raven Says:

    One feel at A time ye be getting there Pal by and by ! :0

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 7:07 am
  4. Velgar Says:

    “Yes, yes. But how does it make you feel?”
    “Yes. And why do you feel angry?”
    “Because you keep asking me how I feel?”
    “And why do you feel that I keep asking you how you feel?”
    “… Seriously?”
    “Why so serious?”
    “… ‘Cose you ain’t funny?” (<– my actual thoughts on Ledger's Joker. He wasn't a very good clown… A good thug, but no Clown Prince of Crime XD)

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 7:16 am
  5. Beth Says:

    I love how he’s sitting — arms crossed and legs crossed, all scrunched up and awkward and defensive. That’s exactly how guys sit when they have to talk about their feelings and don’t want to.

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 10:20 am
  6. Edward Egan Says:

    Beth many men are taught as we grow up. That showing your feelings is weak. No doubt it makes you vulnerable. Esp. my generation (60 here) We were taught if your working and drive a nail into your leg. you should stand up pull it out and say. ” let me walk this off.” Which I know sound off the hook crazy. And it is. But that’s the way people thought when I was young. men should be like ” grunt grunt , grunt.. me man!” and women should care for children and be ready to give us 1st aid. which we would be needing. I totally understand that all that is wrong and way outdated. But in many ways we humans still try to raid our boys to grunt and try and raise our girls to sit down and shut up. when we should be raising them all to face this world the best way they can. We have made some progress since I was a kid. but we still have lightyears to go.

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 3:21 pm
  7. Gurl Says:

    Mark and Dustin shippinng startung right now!

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 4:08 pm
  8. HousePet Says:

    Not enough weird things in that room!
    Or maybe its just my psychologist that is weird…

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 8:30 pm
  9. Cyrus Says:

    Gurl, I’d have a hard enough time staying friends with someone who admitted they were ashamed to know me, never mind dating them. That’s seriously unhealthy.

    Posted October 31st, 2019 at 8:36 pm
  10. Shinjischneider Says:

    When were you guys not shipping?

    So far whatever Mark did someone tried to somehow turn it into a ship 🙂

    I guess it’s something along the lines of “he’s ashamed of Dustin because he actually loves him but can’t admit to himself that he might be gay”.

    But i’ve been where Mark is. I remember being an Animefan in the early/midnineties in germany. You tried to hide it. Tried to look for hidden signs that someone else might also be an Animefan. Not wanting to be associated with someone who’s tooo obviously an Animefan.

    Ok… maybe i do see some similiarities.

    Posted November 1st, 2019 at 2:45 am
  11. DocMcConvoy Says:

    I don’t know why, but I have read this strip many times now, and every time I get the feeling I am watching someone defusing a minefield in a strange way.
    First, this person digs around very carefully to mark all the mines, then choosing one and digging it out carefully, only to see that it can’t be removed from the field. Now the person starts to errect some makeshift walls to not let the whole field go ‘boom’ when this one explodes, followed by starting to fiddle with the mine so it won’t go ‘boom’ when it is made ‘click’ after some time of meddling around with it. And as long as the person is not removed from the minefield he/she continues by repeating this procedure. And I can’t miss to see, that the explosives are still there, now only a little saver.

    Thinking about that, I ask myself if it is done in the hope, that the explosive material over time looses its explosive propertys? I mean yeah, some of the mines are set by ourselfes and can also be removed in this way after defusing all the other mines attatched to it, but some mines in this field are not planted by ourselfes and will stay there… maybe under a lot of soil, but transforming this minefield in a field for crop seems quite risky to me. Also, some of the mine-planters out there are either crazy kids with a pogostick, ready to go play catch-me in the minefield while others are really mean people, always waiting with a box of handgranades to throw into your just as secure declared field.

    Maybe my association here is quite wrong, and the picture I have drawn is not nearly as accurate as I see it right now (and I know I used some unusual phrasing), but as far as I see it, to really complete the work with Mark here after some time, would it not be necessary, that his therapist would invite Jess to come to a session, where Mark can explain everything to her (while she has to listen without further ridiculing him since his therapist would stop her) so that she finally understands what was with him, what really was between him and Sarah and what she (Jess) did to him when they were together with what she said. It is not, that I want to rule all the guilt on her, but she sure has quite the part in it I would say. And he has not solved her as a problem till today, his delusion at the game made that clear.

    I would love it, if this talk would not be handled offscreen, really I would love to see this. From my guess, to the point where Mark will maybe once more be able to handle a relationship with another human being that goes further then friendship might still be a while after that talk, but then we will know at least IF he will ever be able to.

    Posted November 1st, 2019 at 11:20 am
  12. Kobold Says:

    Awwww, Mark… still so insecure that you feel like some of their lack of coolness might rub off onto you? 😄

    Posted November 1st, 2019 at 3:59 pm
  13. And after reading DocMcConvoy’s comment, it gives me the sudden urge to go play Minesweeper.

    Posted November 2nd, 2019 at 1:57 am
  14. Valtharr Says:

    @DocMcConvoy That’s…just not how therapy works. You don’t just invite a third party into a session, regardless of what role they play in the patient’s problems. Don’t get me wrong, it would probably be good for Mark to talk to Jess, but if that happens, it would have to be on his terms, not in this setting. And hell, I’d even argue that he maybe shouldn’t even talk to her. She’s history, the relationship is over, and part of his problem seems to be that he cannot get past that. Above all else, he should probably talk to *Ravenia* (and Damien), apologize, and figure out if *that* relationship should continue.

    Posted November 3rd, 2019 at 5:53 am
  15. DocMcConvoy, I don’t see, why this’s a weird way of defusing a mine field or a mentally unstable person.
    If you discover that you can’t defuse the mines. containing them seems to me the next logical step.
    It allows for possible “diffusion” by getting them to explode in a controlled environment and keeps trespassers from stepping on one of them and triggering the current situation.

    Posted November 4th, 2019 at 4:36 am
  16. Eva Says:

    DocMcConvoy, just knowing where mines are is a huge step forward. Then if someone sets one off you will have an idea why you’re reacting and hopefully a chance to change what you do as a result to something less self destructive.

    And yea, I think the long term goal is that once you understand you can eventually defuse. Some kinds of fears lose some of their power with understanding and others you just have to chip away at (especially those that are tied in with self-destructive habits).

    The thing I think people who haven’t gone through therapy tend to underestimate is how painful it is. Changing is hard and digging under rocks in your brain can be terrifying and painful. But for a lot of people and situations it helps. The tools aren’t perfect, but they’re usually better than the alternative of not trying to treat.

    Posted November 4th, 2019 at 1:05 pm